[Via – dragosroua]
What does your current social situation look like? Are you surrounded by people who bring the best out of you? Or are you held back by individuals who just drag you down? Do you have an abundance of connections? Or do you constantly feel alone?
Regardless of your current social situation, it’s safe to say that one of the most important aspects of your life, is your relationships. Aside from perhaps your spiritual beliefs, your relationships have the greatest impact on who you are as a person.
Unfortunately, one area many people struggle with is their social life, and for much of my life I struggled to. Fortunately , I soon realized that we are in complete control of our social situation. I’d like to share with you some ways to drastically improve your social life.
Stop Fearing Rejection:
One of the main reasons people struggle to have the social life that they desire is because the fear of rejection is constantly on their mind.
“What if they don’t like me?”
“What if I’m not good enough?”
“What if I’m different from everyone else?”
“What if they make fun of me?”
Have you ever had any of these thoughts? If so you’re not alone. But here’s the thing, everyone is insecure. Yes, some are more insecure than other’s but everyone has their faults. Don’t waste a second of your time thinking you’re not good enough. Drop those beliefs immediately.
When you focus your attention on what you lack, you can’t see what you currently have. Realize that no one is perfect. No one has everything figured out. That’s what makes you, well you. Remember not everyone is going to like you accept that. Embrace your differences and rise above the fear of rejection.
As soon as you make the decision to stop fearing rejection, your social life will dramatically improve.
Focus on Quality Not Quantity:
Which would you rather have: a ton of half-hearted-connections, or a small group of really good friends? I don’t know about you, but I’d gladly choose the later.
Unfortunately, many equate having a ton of friends to having an amazing social life, which isn’t always true. While it’s certainly possible to have a large group of friends who you share a wonderful connection with, true intimacy generally occurs in small numbers.
I know plenty of people who have a ton of ‘friends’ but at the end of the day they remain all alone. Don’t fall into that trap. I’m not suggesting you can’t or shouldn’t have a bunch of friends, but rather you should focus on the quality of your relationships instead of the amount of people you can call ‘friends.’
As you develop more and more deep connections your social life will slowly begin to expand to the place where you want it to be.
Care:
While this tip may come off as common sense, so many people forget to do this. Instead of making their relationships a mutual source of happiness, it quickly becomes all about them.
It’s important to make a conscious effort to be as understanding and compassionate as possible. Genuinely care about the connection you’re creating.
When someone needs a friend, be there to listen. When someone needs advice, be there to give it to them. When you truly care about someone you’ll often find that that person will soon begin to care about you.
The sole purpose of relationships is to care. 